I'm pretty good at being alone and when I say that I mean i'm content with doing things on my own. I am a very independent person and sometimes that can be a downfall, but I have found that in my alone time my patience has grown. I won't lie and say i'm super patient and have no trouble waiting, but I have changed the way I see my alone time and that makes it a little easier to be patient. I think in our alone or single time God grows us in many different ways if we would just open our hearts and eyes and realize this alone time is a gift not a punishment.
What do should you do with alone time/ singleness?
I think this question has many answers and we will cover a few!
First and most importantly I think this time in your life needs to be for reflection on your relationship with God. Maybe you have a great relationship with God and maybe the relationship is not what it could be either way is perfectly okay because we can always grow in our relationship with Christ!
Maybe that looks like joining a bible study or reading a devotional or committing to uninterrupted prayer time everyday, whatever it looks like for you make the commitment and follow through.
Secondly I think we should use alone time to reflect on the qualities in a mate we are not willing to compromise on. I have found that failed relationships can happen for one of two reasons- you were not equally yoked or one of you compromised on a "ideal mate" quality that you shouldn't have. (These go hand in hand.) I've been told many times by married friends that it is a good idea to keep a list of qualities that you are NOT I repeat NOT willing to compromise on in a mate. I have a list of my very own and as I grow in my faith my list has grown and changed. I think this is idea is genius! If you know you can't compromise on going to church every week why on Earth are you dating someone who will not go to church with you?
Side note: Missionary dating is not a good idea.
Lastly, I think we need to remember that being alone shouldn't be seen as a burden it's a blessing. If God really didn't care He would let you date all the wrong people whenever you wanted, but He loves us much more than that! He puts people in our life for specific reasons I think we learn something from everyone we meet or we teach them something. If you take that perspective and apply it to your failed relationship, what was God trying to teach you or what did you teach someone else? Interesting isn't it?
Give God the glory for letting you grow in your waiting for the right person. God's always looking out for us. He is growing you and growing your person, but right now your just not ready to be a part of each other's lives yet. Don't worry God's timing is always perfect and his plans are always perfect too!
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